Being Loved vs Being Love

Hello folks,

In recent conversations with friends, one major question keeps coming up, and I wanted to share that question here with you. It goes like this:

We all want to be loved, but how many of us are willing to be love?

Being love means embracing yourself and witnessing your own human experience compassionately. It means learning to find joy wherever you are in the journey. It means recognizing that love bubbles up from the inside and is always here now.

When we’re consumed by a need to be loved, on the other hand, we take the power away from ourselves and place it in external circumstances. We end up bending ourselves out of shape (literally and figuratively) in our attempt to get love and validation from others.

Ultimately, we can’t control how other people in our lives show up for us. But we can always control how we show up within ourselves.

Here are some ways we want to challenge you to be love as you move through your week:

  1. Pay attention to your thoughts and self-talk. How do you speak about yourself? Practice loving and affirming yourself the way you want others to (Yes, even when you aren’t at your best).

  2. Learn to take your needs, desires, and boundaries seriously. Really listen to yourself! Remember that if you don’t respect your needs, you are giving permission for others to do the same.

  3. Finally, become mindful of how you hold your body. Where are you carrying stress and tension? Bring a sense of loving awareness to your body.

And that brings me back to the work we do at Mahalo Massage NYC. Intuitive Massage allows us to be loving to our bodies by getting curious. Why do we have the aches and pains we have? Why do we believe these pains are normal? And how can we learn to listen to our bodies and make the adjustments we need?

In other words, how can we hold ourselves the way we are asking to be held?

One last takeaway:

Being loved requires specific conditions of the world around us. But being love allows us to embody a state of love under any conditions. Remember, there is no one else in the world who can show up for you as consistently and unconditionally as yourself. And from this state of being love, we can always show up for others with an overflowing cup.

Much love to you and yours;

Mrs. Bob.